How many times have you heard someone say to you, ‘You made me feel ___ ?’ Or have you ever recognized yourself saying it to someone else? What’s wrong with this statement? Let’s identify the blame that inherently lives within this assertion. When we say this to another person, we are saying that we have zero control over our emotions and the other person is to blame for how we feel, which communicates to the other person that they must change in order to fix how you feel…or else.