Surviving Domestic Abuse
Some excellent advice on moving from being a victim, to being a survivor, of domestic abuse.
Are We Right to Assume that Women Perpetrate Domestic Violence in Self-Defence? | Psychreg
Article discussing the issue of how, as a society, we often see domestic violence carried out by women as a self-defence thing. It's a trope that is very unhelpful to male victims of domestic abuse.
List of 45 facts about male victims of domestic abuse
Fairly comprehensive list of facts about male victims of domestic abuse.
7 Years of Abuse and I Had No Idea I Was in an Abusive Relationship | Psychreg
How To Forgive Someone : Life Kit : NPR
An interesting essay on the importance of forgiveness, and how it can be about personal recovery rather than letting someone off the hook for abuse. It’s a tough lesson to learn, but ultimately useful, I’ve found.
r/BPDlovedones support wiki
Very useful support resource I wish I'd found when I needed it most. The second best time to have discovered it is now, of course.
Advice to Regretful pwBPD
Quote: "The number-one complaint among loved ones isn’t manipulation, splitting, mood swings, rage, jealousy, devaluation, triangulation, the victim Olympics, or really any of the well-known drama/trauma/abuse. It’s the pervasive lack of accountability."
Reactive abuse
Interesting explanation of the idea of "reactive abuse", where an abuser keeps abusing someone until they get to the point that they react and then the reaction is called abuse.
The Insensitive Ruins It All: Compositional and Compilational Influences of Social Sensitivity on Collective Intelligence in Groups
A group's collective intelligence reflects its capacity to perform well across a variety of cognitive tasks and it transcends the individual intelligence of its members. Previous research shows that group members' social sensitivity is a potential antecedent of collective intelligence, yet it is still unclear whether individual or group-level indices are responsible for the positive association between social sensitivity and collective intelligence. In a comprehensive manner, we test the extent to which both compositional (lowest and highest individual score) and compilational aspects (emergent group level) of social sensitivity are associated with collective intelligence. This study has implications for research that explores groups as information processors, and for group design as it indicates how a group should be composed with respect to social sensitivity if the group is to reach high levels of collective intelligence. Our empirical results indicate that collectively intelligent groups are those in which the least socially sensitive group member has a rather high score on social sensitivity. Differently stated, (socially sensitive) group members cannot compensate for the lack of social sensitivity of the other group members.
Sick Systems: How to Keep Someone With You Forever
Article going over methods of control that can be used by abusers; and also abusive employers.
Excellent thread about experiences with a person with BPD
So many of the comments in this thread really hit home, and put into words my experiences, in ways I'd never be able to. I really wish I had the ability to explain like this.
What's really helpful here is it's healing to see people talk about exactly the things I went through. It's sort of reassuring to know you're not alone, you didn't imagine it, that it really did happen.
Things I have learnt to move on from BPD abuse
Really well-written list concerning the things to keep in mind when recovering from, and moving on from, the abuse received from being in a relationship with a person with PBD.
Male Victims of Coercive Control; Experience and Impact
This report reflects the UK findings of two recent international surveys investigating the experiences of male victims of domestic abuse from their current or former partners which included coercive control.
The report provides an understanding of the types and levels of coercive control experienced by male victims in the UK including emotional, psychological, economic and sexual, as well as isolation.
The findings demonstrate that male victims experience severe and longstanding negative effects from female perpetrated coercive control including anxiety, depression, post-traumatic distress and suicidal ideation.
Recommendations are made to ensure that awareness of men’s experiences are raised, the severity of the impact on male victims is sufficiently recognised, and this is measured and addressed in a gender specific manner.
BPD Loved Ones: What media do you use to cope?
Thread about music and stuff that people use to help cope with being a victim of a pwBPD.
Taking responsibility - why UK PLC needs better managers
A report from YouGov and CMI on the state of leadership and management in UK businesses.
Out of the FOG | Personality Disorders, Narcissism, NPD, BPD
Website and support forum that is "Written and developed by people who have experienced a relationship with a family member, spouse or partner who suffers from a Personality Disorder."