The only way to avoid making these kinds of interactions cringey beyond all reason is to focus on value creation, never value capture. Be a genuine human being who wants to connect people because you like these people, and you think their lives will be better as the result of meeting each other. If you're doing it in hopes of getting value out of those people, go touch some grass, cause you might be a scrub.
"The most curious people I know are constantly paying attention to how things work. Creativity is often remixing the things around us, but in order to remix we have to experience. We take in information, experiences, and perspectives, and then roll them into something new. 'The whole is greater than the sum of the parts.'"
As I started to unpack some aspects of what seemed to be logical ways to increase relationship liquidity, these are the three things that came to mind for me, often because they come up when I'm talking to my superconnector friend:Natural Curiosity"Start Where They Are"Specialization
"Listening and understanding people's lives is a prerequisite. If you start where they are, not where you want them to be, the process goes smoother. Too often missionaries are focused on teaching rather than learning. You will need to learn where they are in order to teach what they need to progress."
But that's not how relationships are built. Relationships are built, first, from listening and understanding. Understanding where someone is in their life, what makes them tick, what are their hopes and dreams, and then finding ways to fit into that, and add value to their life. That's how relationships are made.
You need to be able to articulate why someone would want to know you, respond to you, or spend time with you.
And all of these things compound. The more curious you are, the more able you are to understand where a specific person is. And the better understanding you have of them, the more capable you are of articulating what you could do to bring value into their lives.
He shared these charts demonstrating where the curiosity phase exists along several adoption curves for new technology, and I think it’s pretty illustrative of the moment in time.