Sometimes just knowing your cringey reasons is half the battle, other times it’s the whole battle, or only one tenth. But the humility in facing them is worth the pain. Coming up from the depths to cringe, then troubleshoot, isn’t avoidant — it’s responsible.

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Speaking to another respectable flesh and blood person forces you to think more clearly.

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You can dream up any combination of dishes - values — that you like…but that doesn’t mean the restaurant — actual world — will serve them to you. ​ something to appreciate about both spontaneity and routine, something to appreciate about both striving and settling, something to appreciate about novelty and familiarity. ​ Values necessarily emerge from the bottom up, in an illegible patchwork that exceeds anything we could ever design.

“What is the meaning of life?” is more like asking “how does orange look?” The sentence has superficially appropriate structure, but no set of words can adequately convey the (true) answer.

For these patients, the therapeutic womb and its perpetual present can be a blessed gift, an investment that makes extension into the future possible again... a bit later. But most of us are not so tightly past-bound. Instead, our past tethers us with loose reins, or we hold the past lightly in one hand as we reach towards the future with the other. Future-oriented clients may not be best-served by even friendly and warm invitations to wallow in the present.

People have the wrong idea about what's wrong with compulsive behavior in the first place, which produces wrong ideas about the fixes. ​ Instead, the problem is that compulsive behaviors are not freely and deliberately chosen. ​ Take a moment to imagine the alternatives. Do any of them attend to your emotional and other needs better than what you're currently doing?

[Issues] must be resolved in their own ways, with a psychological-philosophical toolbox that's never too full. Some of them are never really resolved, so the task becomes living alongside [them].