Pamela J. Hobart’s response to Scott Young’s “What’s Beyond Self-Improvement?”
[Issues] must be resolved in their own ways, with a psychological-philosophical toolbox that's never too full. Some of them are never really resolved, so the task becomes living alongside [them].
If you think you can’t step away, do it anyway for one day to see how much trouble it causes. That’s useful information. Dump your brain on to a sheet of paper—every single thing you could hope to do in the next 3 to 4 months. Then, look at your task list. Have the author sign each one. Did you write it, or was it fear, that nasty tyrant in your head? Cross off anything written out of fear. Listen: some drudgery is unavoidable, but you’re living your one and only life. You get to drive
This week, I handed Holloway's CEO reins over to my co-founder, Josh Levy. As we built Holloway over the last four years, I got the chance to explore the depths of my love for research, writing, and sharing stories. My belief in the purpose and mission of this company hasn’t wavered, but over the last six months I found myself wishing I could be a full-time independent creator. And at the end of July Josh and I came up with a way for me to do that.
anyway, a cute vestigial remnant of this whole process is that I still announce what I'm about to do before I do it. It's like a little ritual I have for myself. Every time I do what I say, I build trust in myself, I build self-respect
anyway, a cute vestigial remnant of this whole process is that I still announce what I'm about to do before I do it. It's like a little ritual I have for myself. Every time I do what I say, I build trust in myself, I build self-respect (which I didn't have until... 25? 27?)— Visa’s Fluorescent Foibles (@visakanv) August 11, 2020
Having that utopian vision of the world is important though. And being optimistic about making enormous change is important, too. But I’m learning that the truly wise folks hold that vision in their minds whilst making tiny incremental progress in that direction every single day. Tiny steps is how you solve everything; from a bad design, to a confusing codebase, to a dysfunctional society.
I agree with him: [envy] will eat you alive if you keep it inside. I think one thing you can do is spit it out, cut it out, or get it out by whatever means available — write it down or draw it out on paper — and take a hard look at it so it might actually teach you something.
I considered that for a minute, then tentatively asked, “Which wolf will win?” Sparks danced towards the stars as the old man stared into the glare of the flames and replied, “Whichever one you feed.” I’ve been feeding the wrong wolf. Without a clear intention to feed the right wolf, I’ve been letting envy and greed and these negative emotions fester.
Because we aren’t committing to a roadmap, we aren’t setting expectations. And because we don’t set expectations, we don’t feel guilty when that great idea never gets any build time because we decided something else was more important.
The momentum can’t build if it’s constantly derailed at the start. The climate crisis […] can essentially be what brings us all together to work towards a common and greater goal.
That last line is worth repeating: “Blogging is an essential tool toward meditating over an extended period of time on a subject you consider to be important.”
What Stan needs to realize is that a disciplined approach to making things is just one part of the puzzle. The other part is about simply living his life, and having the freedom to explore his surroundings and interests.
Craig Mod’s section on emotional intelligence in Roden 043
“emotional intelligence” has become an organizing principal for my moving through, and responding to the world. It’s become a prime characteristic by which I qualify who I want to be spending more time with.
Insane wealth doesn’t insulate children from the harshness of the world around them. Just because you’re rich doesn’t mean your life is going to be good, or even easy. The key to making any relationship last is making an effort. What does making an effort look like? Remembering things about people, reaching out to them regularly, letting them know you care. I’ve become a big fan of phone calls.
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I’ve generally had a hard time accepting kindness from others due to fear of inconveniencing others This is definitely one of the pitfalls of working alone as an indie maker. It allows me to indulge that tendency and try to do everything myself rather than building relationships and learning that it's okay to depend on others.
All those things aren’t how we measure success—we only think of the big things like falling in love, finding a great job, making a beautiful thing. But cleaning the dishes and doing laundry is what really stands in the way of the big things and us.
When I talk about [underdeterminism], I jokingly give the example of where Twitter would be today if the service had been built strictly as a way to share information about baseball games.
A cross between a text message thread and a blog post about inter-generational conflicts, Boomer as a state of mind, cultural differences between Zoomers and Millennials, and what it feels like to grow up Very Online.
In pandemic times, fears of waldenponding seem less applicable. It's not about building a new city or society, but a transient, protected retreat. (e.g. the Recurse Center). …It seems valuable to shield these sorts of endeavors from an environment that's increasingly hostile to knowledge work.
In the early 2000s social media sites like Facebook and Twitter weren’t commonplace yet. Even text messages, at ten cents each, were something to be rationed. For many teenagers the primary means of communication outside school was AOL Instant Messenger (AIM). So when it was announced in October that they were shutting down AIM after 20 years, I felt a wave of nostalgia for the messaging app of my youth.