Things That Happened in July
Substrate
A Grief Observed
The window to write this, I know, has passed. The subject has been exhausted, what happened has happened and we are here. The day after, I walked through a North Carolina airport in a determined daze—crying and deliberately looking any stranger who would let me, right in the eyes. I was manic and furious and the task felt aggressive. It felt like my right. More people than you would think met my sobbing gaze. Each time, I would look away first.
Bo’s PM Return
“I've been thinking a lot about the term "calculated vulnerability". I've seen a lot of my peers write after the resolution of a something hard (overcoming an illness, shutting down a startup, IVF etc) after a happy ending, neatly packaging their vulnerability in a bow. But what if that happy ending doesn't come? Do you just stay in a purgatory? Do you just stay in silence? I've been wondering about what my "resolution" will be so I can start publishing again. This self-imposed hiatus is basically me waiting for a satisfactory resolution in order to start writing again.”
A Pitfall of the Monetary Lens of Time
My Life is Random
“Sometimes I think back to some of the single actions that ended up changing my life forever.”
Bluemont Park
“But if I have learned anything in the past year it is how to change, and if I can turn into a runner I must be able to turn into anything else.”
Richard Feynman on Self-Doubt and Meeting Others’ Expectations
“Often it’s not the expectations of other people that burn us out and make us miserable, but those we place on ourselves.”
A valuable skill – rands – Medium
“The trope is “Change is scary.” It’s actually not. It’s uncomfortable”
Navigating the bumpy road from engineer to engineering manager
A few years ago, I woke up and took a look at my work calendar. Back-to-back meetings from 10am to 5pm. Sigh. I rolled out of bed, checked…
Would you work with them again?
or, how I think about long-term success
The Long Goodbye
On September 12, as far as Facebook is concerned I won’t exist. Yesterday, I permanently deleted my Facebook account. I let go of 300,000 followers, 1200 friends and the blue seal of authenticity. …
Patreon Acquires Memberful, An Interview with Patreon CEO Jack Conte and Memberful CEO Drew Strojny
“From my perspective, this shift from “You’re buying stuff that’s already created” to “You’re funding the creation of ongoing content” has been a clear evolution in Memberful.” “Also, from a philosophical perspective, our number one core behavior — some companies have values, Patreon has behaviors, we like that word because it’s something you can do — is “Put creators first.””
Eugene Wei on Twitter
One of my unpopular beliefs is that many meetings in companies should have more cc's, not fewer as is the common complaint everywhere I've been. We underestimate how much observational knowledge transfer occurs.
Centrifuge
kept the city in a hostile sepia the way the calendar rips itself away from your grasp.
I’m 30
Every year, for the last twelve years, I’ve done a birthday post. These posts summarize what’s happened in my life over the last year, as well as my thoughts about the future. This year was a big one for me, more than just rolling into a new decade. I got married. I signed a book
What’s your most underappreciated tweet?
“Twitter friends: what’s your most underappreciated tweet? Don’t think too hard about it. Just share something that you appreciated more than your audience did.”
Creative Struggle
Airpods as the next platform (and the native applications therein)
“I could see an audio directory showing the status of who has their airpods in and who doesn’t, and a low level audio notification exposing the name of any friend that’s asking to pop into your Airpods. Kind of like a Waze alert notification.”
On Editing (Your Own) Fiction
Over on Twitter, I saw this insightful observation: She is not wrong. There’s a lot of writing advice that focuses on, “shut off the inner critic, just write, you can fix it in editing&…
Be Kind
“And I remind myself to be kind and see the potential in people. Give them a break. Just like Kevin did for me.”
Should I Become a Manager?
Advice for high performers in any company
iOS Resources
“So, iOS nerds: People often ask me for the best resources to learn iOS development and my list is out of date and in need of a refresh. What links, videos, books, courses, apps, etc. do you send to people who want to learn how to write iOS apps?”
The Heart of Becoming a Writer
“The heart of becoming a writer is to come into focus on oneself. To know — and usually it’s best not to know until after you’ve done it — what has finally become important to write about and what you can say that no one else particularly can say.”
A very simple rule
“I have a very simple rule that serves me well: Don’t think too much about your life after dinnertime. Thinking too much at the end of the day is a recipe for despair. Everything looks better in the light of the morning. Cliché, maybe, but it works.”
School and the seasons
“I have lived for the last eight years in seasonless places, where things do not die, but revolve in a constant tropic sun. I had forgotten how the fall sharpens pencils, gray and colored ones”
Learning how to learn again
“What I love about my son’s drawings is that he does not really care about them once he’s finished them. To him, they are dead artifacts, a scrap of by-product from his learning process. (For me, they’re tiny masterpieces to hang on the fridge.)”
burn burn burn
“But I think that boredom was just the sort of “self-care” I needed. I don’t like that term for all the reasons others have pointed out, but also because I think that self-care sometimes involves doing things that don’t feel lovely or gentle. It involves doing the thing that will actually make it possible for you to do the things you like doing, to be the person you like being.”
The Audacity of Copying Well
“The problem with focusing on features as a means of differentiation is that nothing happens in a vacuum: category-defining products by definition get a lot of the user experience right from the beginning, and the parts that aren’t perfect — like Facebook’s sharing settings or the iPhone’s icon-based UI — become the standard anyways simply because everyone gets used to them.”
Be Careful Out There: On Sarah Jeong and the Future of Public Shaming
Thoughts on Self-help
This week vlogger Leena Norms included Steal Like An Artist on her list of “Top 10 Self Help Books that ACTUALLY HELP.” I was especially taken with her thoughtful intro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SdyYF2vH8pA Steal Like An Artist was written and drawn at such a fast and furious pace that I don’t think I spent a lot of time thinking about