When You Live Your Values Every Day, There's No Need for Activist Guilt.
Responding to reader questions about decision fatigue, organizing tactics, and the shame of never doing "enough."
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I Live Near My Friends
Hello, I’m Daniel. On June 1, 2022, I moved into a co-living arrangement in Brooklyn; now I share an apartment with four best friends, with tens more living within a short walk.
Headers:
- Conceptions about “roommates” are incorrectly anchored
- Live with people who take living seriously
- Peace, solitude, separation
- Order reigns in an apartment of five
- On the topic of Brooklyn
- Be brave
Quote: "If you want what I have (and many people do), you need to be brave, and you need to recognize the reward of discomfort. Obtaining a proper fit in lifestyle and social sphere is not easy, otherwise we would all have it. It’s not exactly something you “find,” although that’s the way most people erroneously pursue it. It’s something you build. That means you have to be willing to move, willing to judge, willing to be judged, willing to give different ways of living (apartment arrangement, cohabitants, neighborhoods, and more) a proper trial."
The radical need for friends to become informed safe spaces
"Safe space is not only a place where I want to feel heard and seen with my vulnerabilities, it is also a place where my radical hope for the future meets your radical preparedness... Safe spaces devoid of knowledge and empathy are fragile. Such spaces prevent one from unveiling their broken hearts because the potential of healing is unknown. They put the weight of the conversation and the expectation of action, on the speaker. They can turn into a one-sided relationship, with the work of developing clarity, having an informed opinion and doing the emotional labour, placed on one person."
How to Live Near Your Friends
People often tell me that their friend group talks about living near each other. And yet, almost none of them have successfully clustered their friend group yet. Here's how I got 22 of my friends to live within walking distance ✨