Passage from screenshot of book:
> > How could love be anything other than a rapture? "You should date," my mother says. "Meet someone nice." As if there's any correlation between this force, this feeling, and dating.
> > Oh, the interchangeable men on the Google Calendar-Chris, Pete, Rob, Malcolm-like so much bland litter; taking Ubers and Lyfts to restaurants and bars; doing the math to split the bill and match the tip with men who own bicycles more expensive than their furniture, men who are oddly puritanical about hops and vegetables, men who are boastful of their neuroses the trauma, the therapy, the meta-therapeutic rejection of therapy. One told me in earnest that it was important that I know right away, from the start, that he hated his mother. I just nodded over my Korean short rib, sipped my orange wine. Men so weak that I have to break up with myself for them. Sperm on crutches, Grandma Rose would've said.
I've been feeling very under-nourished in my male friendships recently
Thread on dearth of emotional investment in platonic male friendships
christian on X: "what's the best strategy for finding people who are intellectually curious, physically and mentally healthy, fun to go out with, good professionals, and with good character?" / X
Visakan Veerasamy on X: "tell me a random detail about a cool older friend that you admired when you were a teenager? (wanna piece together a composite portrait of the cool big sis/bro archetype, for fiction purposes)" / X
Visakan Veerasamy on Twitter / X
thread on modern dating
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Sasha Chapin on X
Omg, you can have a relationship where your partner is actively and intelligently and inventively striving to meet your needs on an ongoing basis, wtf
brian🧃 on Twitter
“Why does it seem like the more inner work a person does the less likely they are to maintain a relationship”
Ethan Mollick on Twitter
Relevant again; We have a tendency to simplify complex problems so that we can understand them & then we solve the simplified version.This can backfire for wicked problems: those that are complex, uncertain & hard to evaluate. Review this list of reductive tendencies to help! pic.twitter.com/VaoKbcLeKE— Ethan Mollick (@emollick) October 3, 2022