andrew (spring '24 classes are now open) 🌹 on X: "video games, and the people who play them, are deeply misunderstood it's difficult to clarify in a tweet, but feel free to AMA" / X
grey 🇵🇸 on Twitter
if you aren't going to RT about what's going on in palestine, please at least share their culture to keep the memory of them alive. repeatedly they said they wanted their culture, their happiness, themselves to be remembered. so here's a thread of some tiktoks for you— grey 🇵🇸 (@fxedinthehead) October 28, 2023
Emma Fraser on X
In Barry S1, Bill Hader thought it was sweet that Barry got Sally a laptop as a gift so early in their relationship. The women in the writers room pointed out that it was too much and this is how it played in the scene. Writers’ rooms are important.
Vanessa Kisuule thread on perpetual singledom
“Will probably delete this but want to post for those who feel similar because it's maddening thinking you're the only one/one of very few. I am very sad about but making peace with the fact that romantic love is sthg that eludes some of us for reasons we cannot know or control.”
I am very sad about but making peace with the fact that romantic love is sthg that eludes some of us for reasons we cannot know or control.
whilst many people go in and out of relationships on some miraculous, regular wave, some of us have that happen rarely or not at all.
It is just bad luck. And luck can ofc turn on a dime. But it can also just go on like that, reliably & laughably shitty, for years or even decades. You can make yourself sick with hope, waste time & energy with your antenna raised whilst simultaneously pretending not to care.
This anxiety has generated a multi billion dollar industry of books/events/courses/apps claiming to have an answer. Attempts are made to lace singledom with some semblance of dignity or even gravitas. But we remain a species addicted to the salvation of romantic love.
The solutions peddled by apps & self help gurus work for some. But there is another experience, another rambling path: sad, difficult, ghostly, formative & continually humbling. Undisturbed, you learn to truly hear yourself and the tide of your thoughts, for better and for worse
The term relationship STATUS speaks volumes. It's as much about ego as anything else, wanting to signal to the world that s/o has freely elected to give your their time, care & attention. In lieu of meaningful community ties, this is the last bastion of relational safety.
It pierces you like a shard of glass some days: except for cursory hugs and handshakes signalling hello & goodbye, you haven't been touched, meaningfully, for months or perhaps even years.
You smother your libido such that sex reverts back to the slightly silly and gross act it seemed like when you first heard about it as a child. Better to be mildly disgusted by it than ache for it every day.
I'm not under any delusions about partnership. Like anything, it can be anti-climatic, banal, exposing, violent. Even when its lovely & loving, life still finds other ways of sneaking in its sucker punches. I know this. But still.
We each have our story of exclusion, our own private gulf of shame. Let it grow, not shrink, your heart. Its this sense of lack, the very thing that makes you feel hideous, that builds your empathy. We each have our crosses to bear and we must do so with grace & good humour.
Please don't send me platitudes or assurances that it will happen or that I am lovable/desirable. Those things are certainly true in abstract and I know that. I want to talk honestly about the feeling without people rushing me towards a solution or soothing balm.
I never used to let myself acknowledge the weight of sadness I felt around this. I thought it was above me & the brilliant life I've built. Too basic, too pathetic! But breaking news: I am made of the same soft, jelly-ish needs as anyone. Hate that for me tbh, but there you go.
Sometimes I wish it were an organ, this longing. Then I could neatly & efficiently cut it out of my body. The world is so big, so gorgeous, replete with issues that deserve our focus. I want to stop thinking about this so I can apply my full self to anything & everything else.
Paul Fairie on Twitter
“A Brief History of Kids Today Are Too Soft
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Tim Urban on Twitter
Twitter is an anti-compassion machine that stokes our tendency to dehumanize and even hate people we don't know personally. Four little exercises I use to combat that and crank up the compassion in my mind:— Tim Urban (@waitbutwhy) November 4, 2022
bliss on Twitter
Okay they ate lol pic.twitter.com/5jdSrUoCME— bliss (@midwestbimbo) October 22, 2022
acquired waste 🇺🇦 on Twitter
the fact that roger ebert wrote this is 2009, way before fandom and reference culture was anywhere near as ubiquitous as it is now... pic.twitter.com/OXtPLwwRCm— acquired waste 🇺🇦 (@camelcrushed) October 9, 2022
Mark Harris on Twitter
Random thought: The obsession with Harry Styles' sexuality fascinates me, because it's where a new generation's golden rule--sexuality is fluid, you can choose from dozens of identities, etc.--crashes into an older rule: Tell us who you are so we can decide what we think of you.— Mark Harris (@MarkHarrisNYC) September 3, 2022
swami sound (back in the day soulecta dub) on Twitter
NYC is gentrified snd segregated as hell, specific crowds in manhattan don't mesh with the tastes of some brooklyn crowds, gigfinesse is monopolizing venue spaces in lower manhattan and paying horribly, and the BX is left with geographical stigma and sporadic DIY scenes https://t.co/COUB3U4zFw— swami sound (back in the day soulecta dub) (@swamisound) August 16, 2022
Scott Hechinger on Twitter
I frequently find myself in conversations w/ well-meaning people who’ll ask about crime, “Well, we have to do something about it!” And I ask them, “Then why support the same things we’ve always done, which plainly fail to prevent it, hurt people, & cost a fortune?” A dialogue:— Scott Hechinger (@ScottHech) July 11, 2022
There are no “bad” foods! on Twitter
pic.twitter.com/DugRCxTrKM— There are no “bad” foods! (@IWriteAllDay_) August 11, 2022
✨𝖇𝖊𝖓✨ on Twitter
In Poland, there is a LARP group that roleplays as contemporary Americans. Here they are doing “Ohio.” pic.twitter.com/ckZRIYZHzV— ✨𝖇𝖊𝖓✨ (@PenBercifield) May 28, 2022