yatharth ༺༒༻ (@AskYatharth) on X
one of the things i'm wrestling with today is the idea of coming home from work and feeling "entitled" to not helping with setting the dishes, being present and active in evening duties, and so on
Can’t sleep, time to do a fresh reboot of VV’s talking points— Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) November 23, 2020
Tyler Alterman on X: "On Finding Your People: I’m told I have an unusual talent for finding wonderful people. Below is my strategy for having a rich social life in any large city Disclaimer: This will require you acting in a way that is not normal. You may need to decide whether you want to be normal" / X
I’m told I have an unusual talent for finding wonderful people. Below is my strategy for having a rich social life in any large city
Disclaimer: This will require you acting in a way that is not normal. You may need to decide whether you want to be normal…
— Tyler Alterman (@TylerAlterman)
I dunno man. I think people getting this wrong.
No one been under the impression that alcohol is good for you. We know it’s bad. Duh.
Reason why alcohol use gonna decline is cause we exist in a culture of narcotics and gluttony now. the phones. Porn. Social media. Dating…
— Joe Holder (@JoeHolder_)
(1) GL on X: "Thinking all there is to do in NYC is dinner and drinks or that any social activity costs $50 is a skill issue, however it is one I am here to help with. Below is my running calendar of free things to do in the city this summer, go save money and have fun https://t.co/2ujSlubTGp" / X
— GL (@gldivittorio)
Paul Graham on Twitter
If you really think a problem is serious, then take it seriously. Be empirical and tentative, as a scientist would, instead of dogmatic.— Paul Graham (@paulg) October 28, 2022
Dr. Nicole LePera on Twitter
Childhood trauma doesn’t just come from what you experience, it’s also about what you don’t experience. Here’s some examples:— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) October 11, 2022
Tyler Alterman on X: "What is a journaling prompt with the power of potentially taking people from low agency to high agency? eg “What would you work on if you had no fear?" / X
What is a journaling prompt with the power of potentially taking people from low agency to high agency?eg “What would you work on if you had no fear?— Tyler Alterman (@TylerAlterman) March 26, 2024
crap on Twitter / X
Mocking day in the life TikTok edits with. Really long drawn out consumerist day
christian on X: "what's the best strategy for finding people who are intellectually curious, physically and mentally healthy, fun to go out with, good professionals, and with good character?" / X
Massimo on Twitter / X
festive goblin ⊙v⊙ on X: "spent the weekend with a bunch of highly agentic people and now i've got a bunch of thoughts about agency" / X
notes on agency
Sherry on X
I watched Barbie thrice to come up with this idea: What stops most people from living out their true selves is not ignorance of their own mortality but an inability to distinguish between wants and oughts. Most are too busy going through the motions (ie. planned choreography):
Steph Soussloff on X
How do I turn off the part of my brain that is sensemaking / storying / evaluating an experience as I am having it?
so if it is, I want to be more in the present moment, like a horse(?), then the thing is to direct your attention towards the details and the gestalt of general horseyness. Imagining the horse self within you and really feeling how it relates to the reality you inhabit
brian🧃 on Twitter
“Why does it seem like the more inner work a person does the less likely they are to maintain a relationship”
Vanessa Kisuule thread on perpetual singledom
“Will probably delete this but want to post for those who feel similar because it's maddening thinking you're the only one/one of very few. I am very sad about but making peace with the fact that romantic love is sthg that eludes some of us for reasons we cannot know or control.”
I am very sad about but making peace with the fact that romantic love is sthg that eludes some of us for reasons we cannot know or control.
whilst many people go in and out of relationships on some miraculous, regular wave, some of us have that happen rarely or not at all.
It is just bad luck. And luck can ofc turn on a dime. But it can also just go on like that, reliably & laughably shitty, for years or even decades. You can make yourself sick with hope, waste time & energy with your antenna raised whilst simultaneously pretending not to care.
This anxiety has generated a multi billion dollar industry of books/events/courses/apps claiming to have an answer. Attempts are made to lace singledom with some semblance of dignity or even gravitas. But we remain a species addicted to the salvation of romantic love.
The solutions peddled by apps & self help gurus work for some. But there is another experience, another rambling path: sad, difficult, ghostly, formative & continually humbling. Undisturbed, you learn to truly hear yourself and the tide of your thoughts, for better and for worse
The term relationship STATUS speaks volumes. It's as much about ego as anything else, wanting to signal to the world that s/o has freely elected to give your their time, care & attention. In lieu of meaningful community ties, this is the last bastion of relational safety.
It pierces you like a shard of glass some days: except for cursory hugs and handshakes signalling hello & goodbye, you haven't been touched, meaningfully, for months or perhaps even years.
You smother your libido such that sex reverts back to the slightly silly and gross act it seemed like when you first heard about it as a child. Better to be mildly disgusted by it than ache for it every day.
I'm not under any delusions about partnership. Like anything, it can be anti-climatic, banal, exposing, violent. Even when its lovely & loving, life still finds other ways of sneaking in its sucker punches. I know this. But still.
We each have our story of exclusion, our own private gulf of shame. Let it grow, not shrink, your heart. Its this sense of lack, the very thing that makes you feel hideous, that builds your empathy. We each have our crosses to bear and we must do so with grace & good humour.
Please don't send me platitudes or assurances that it will happen or that I am lovable/desirable. Those things are certainly true in abstract and I know that. I want to talk honestly about the feeling without people rushing me towards a solution or soothing balm.
I never used to let myself acknowledge the weight of sadness I felt around this. I thought it was above me & the brilliant life I've built. Too basic, too pathetic! But breaking news: I am made of the same soft, jelly-ish needs as anyone. Hate that for me tbh, but there you go.
Sometimes I wish it were an organ, this longing. Then I could neatly & efficiently cut it out of my body. The world is so big, so gorgeous, replete with issues that deserve our focus. I want to stop thinking about this so I can apply my full self to anything & everything else.
Bachman on Twitter
A whole rotisserie chicken for $7.50 is a miracle of capitalism. It's most of a day's calories for 30 minutes of minimum wage. It's delicious. It goes with everything. It comes hot, but you can eat it cold. Incredible.— Bachman (@ElonBachman) June 22, 2023
Visakan Veerasamy on Twitter
here's a 10-minute attempt to summarize my 300 page book @introspectVV into ~500 words. didn't precisely meet the brief of "in one breath" but i'll try again multiple times pic.twitter.com/vdOSJt2DHf— Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) June 14, 2023
Alexander Chee on Twitter
Often when you don’t want to be your mother or father, there’s something you’re trying to escape you can’t otherwise name.— Alexander Chee (@alexanderchee) June 14, 2023
Codie Sanchez on Twitter
Every night my husband and I do this one thing, it's called the TEAM method...It may completely change your relationship, it did for ours:— Codie Sanchez (@Codie_Sanchez) June 10, 2023
Visakan Veerasamy on Twitter
working harder, getting increasingly heated/angry, past a threshold where its not working, will typically make things worse. everything gets more knotted and tense. overwhelming the bottleneck https://t.co/EP69fo5ZwE— Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) June 9, 2023
Visakan Veerasamy on Twitter
"i'm trying to be less stressed", "i'm trying to be less unhappy", "I want to feel less alone", etc, all same issueyou gotta focus on where you want to go, not where you don't want to gohttps://t.co/tFaWtEZM1p— Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) December 15, 2021
elle on Twitter
ppl talk a lot about how hard it is to make friends as an adult, & I have thoughts on that but imo an underexplored problem space is how to move “person you vibe super well with, but have only met twice” from friendly acquaintance to bff when you’re both super busy & have lives— elle (@ellegist) May 7, 2023
derek guy on Twitter
“I once heard a bespoke tailor suggest this is increasingly common in modern society because people have desk jobs, so their legs are weak. He said his clients who do manual labor have the opposite posture: knees slightly bent and hips back.”
Joe Holder on Twitter
modern culture can often have you constantly striving for more but i really think you gotta celebrate when you get to places and stages of comfort as a young adult yea, don’t get complacent etc but also don’t fall in love with “the struggle” focus on expanding your comfort…— Joe Holder (@JoeHolder_) April 18, 2023
Visakan Veerasamy on Twitter
Adler: the strongest person in our culture is the baby. The baby rules over the adults with his weakness. And it is because of this weakness that nobody can control him— Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) September 6, 2018
charlie T on Twitter
ok so understanding what bedtime procrastination ~is~ is like,, moderately helpful but are there decent treatments for it? how do i induce a feeling of having done enough with my day that i can allow myself to go to bed— charlie T (@rhymeswithvocal) December 19, 2022
💽 on Twitter
pic.twitter.com/O9zAzRE2LE— 💽 (@dirtybird0_o) November 26, 2022
Max Hertan on Twitter
“Bryan Johnson sold his company to PayPal for $800 million in 2013.
Since then, he's been investing millions to reduce aging.
In 2021, he reduced his epigenetic age by 5.1 years in 7 months (World Record)
Here’s a breakdown of his “Blueprint” and my own experience with it: 🧵”
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Companies find it incredibly hard to reliably staff positions with hard-working generalists who operate autonomously and have high risk tolerances. This is not the modal employee, including at places which are justifiably proud of the skill/diligence/etc of their employees.
Startups are (by necessity) filled with generalists; big companies are filled with specialists. People underestimate how effective a generalist can be at things which are done by specialists. People underestimate how deep specialties can run. These are simultaneously true.
The hardest problem in B2C is distribution. The hardest problem in B2B is sales.
Your idea is not valuable, at all. All value is in the execution.
nobody serious will engage in contract review over an idea, and this will mark you as clueless.