How to be more emotionally intelligent (without trying so hard)
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— Joe Hudson (@FU_joehudson)
Dr. Nicole LePera on Twitter
If you were “mature for their age” you might have been parentified. Parentification is when a child is made to fill an adult role. This is an “invisible” trauma that has life long impact. HERE’S WHY: 🧵— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) October 16, 2022
Parentification is an extremely common family dynamic where children are expected to: manage their parents emotions or issues (most common is marital problems), take care of the home & siblings on a regular basis, or act as a peer to a parent.
Children adapt quickly to this role. They learn they must betray their own needs, desires, & emotions to keep the connection to a parent.
Many children feel a fierce sense of loyalty to the parent thats parentifying them.
They want to fix, rescue, & protect that parent. It’s a true role reversal.