working harder, getting increasingly heated/angry, past a threshold where its not working, will typically make things worse. everything gets more knotted and tense. overwhelming the bottleneck https://t.co/EP69fo5ZwE— Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) June 9, 2023

Adler: the strongest person in our culture is the baby. The baby rules over the adults with his weakness. And it is because of this weakness that nobody can control him— Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) September 6, 2018

someone asked me for a reading list of my threads about increasing agency, so here are some...— visakan veerasamy (@visakanv) May 25, 2022

A thing that's slightly counterintuitive about social reality, and particularly internet social reality, is that "Dunbar constraints" don't apply. You can radically change your experience by radically changing the way you behave and the people you talk with. Make alts, etc— visakan veerasamy (@visakanv) October 9, 2018

so like, a lot of people are shitty managers of their own brains. i'm sorry its true. it's not even really your fault, you weren't taught better. this species is a fractal of shitty management all the way up and down.and all the cliches of bad managers apply internally as well— visakan veerasamy (@visakanv) June 9, 2021

this is true for people IRL, too. the best thing I learned from my ex-boss wasn't any single insight or truism, but *his way of being*. He's calm in the face of conflict & difficulty, sincerely believe that it's possible to know things, and do things, and to change for the better— visakan veerasamy (@visakanv) October 9, 2018