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Sherry on Twitter
Sherry on Twitter
If you don’t like small talk it means you’re not good at listening. The purpose of small talk is to test boundaries, slowly build trust, and pick up details to carefully broaden the conversation. Why should strangers offer you valuable information if you haven’t demonstrated— Sherry (@SchrodingrsBrat) August 9, 2023
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Vanessa Kisuule thread on perpetual singledom
Vanessa Kisuule thread on perpetual singledom
“Will probably delete this but want to post for those who feel similar because it's maddening thinking you're the only one/one of very few. I am very sad about but making peace with the fact that romantic love is sthg that eludes some of us for reasons we cannot know or control.”
I am very sad about but making peace with the fact that romantic love is sthg that eludes some of us for reasons we cannot know or control.
whilst many people go in and out of relationships on some miraculous, regular wave, some of us have that happen rarely or not at all.
It is just bad luck. And luck can ofc turn on a dime. But it can also just go on like that, reliably & laughably shitty, for years or even decades. You can make yourself sick with hope, waste time & energy with your antenna raised whilst simultaneously pretending not to care.
This anxiety has generated a multi billion dollar industry of books/events/courses/apps claiming to have an answer. Attempts are made to lace singledom with some semblance of dignity or even gravitas. But we remain a species addicted to the salvation of romantic love.
The solutions peddled by apps & self help gurus work for some. But there is another experience, another rambling path: sad, difficult, ghostly, formative & continually humbling. Undisturbed, you learn to truly hear yourself and the tide of your thoughts, for better and for worse
The term relationship STATUS speaks volumes. It's as much about ego as anything else, wanting to signal to the world that s/o has freely elected to give your their time, care & attention. In lieu of meaningful community ties, this is the last bastion of relational safety.
It pierces you like a shard of glass some days: except for cursory hugs and handshakes signalling hello & goodbye, you haven't been touched, meaningfully, for months or perhaps even years.
You smother your libido such that sex reverts back to the slightly silly and gross act it seemed like when you first heard about it as a child. Better to be mildly disgusted by it than ache for it every day.
I'm not under any delusions about partnership. Like anything, it can be anti-climatic, banal, exposing, violent. Even when its lovely & loving, life still finds other ways of sneaking in its sucker punches. I know this. But still.
We each have our story of exclusion, our own private gulf of shame. Let it grow, not shrink, your heart. Its this sense of lack, the very thing that makes you feel hideous, that builds your empathy. We each have our crosses to bear and we must do so with grace & good humour.
Please don't send me platitudes or assurances that it will happen or that I am lovable/desirable. Those things are certainly true in abstract and I know that. I want to talk honestly about the feeling without people rushing me towards a solution or soothing balm.
I never used to let myself acknowledge the weight of sadness I felt around this. I thought it was above me & the brilliant life I've built. Too basic, too pathetic! But breaking news: I am made of the same soft, jelly-ish needs as anyone. Hate that for me tbh, but there you go.
Sometimes I wish it were an organ, this longing. Then I could neatly & efficiently cut it out of my body. The world is so big, so gorgeous, replete with issues that deserve our focus. I want to stop thinking about this so I can apply my full self to anything & everything else.
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Vanessa Kisuule thread on perpetual singledom
Coby on Twitter
Coby on Twitter
Lancaster, CA transformed its downtown in just 8 months by redesigning it's main street from a mini-highway to a tree-lined boulevard.For the cost of just $11.5M, the project has generated $273M in economic output since 2010, creating 800 jobs, and nearly doubling tax revenue! pic.twitter.com/kS3E4dpjGq— Coby (@Cobylefko) July 20, 2023
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Coby on Twitter
Tyson on Twitter
Tyson on Twitter
Meme reaction pic of Christopher Nolan pointing a huge imax camera at villain Murphy laying in bed for Oppenheimer
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Tyson on Twitter
Simon Rosenberg on Twitter
Simon Rosenberg on Twitter
GOP election pitch:- yes we tried to overthrow US Gov’t, but we *failed*- our last 3 POTUS brought recessions and higher deficits- we want the planet to warm faster, more kids to die in schools, tens of millions to lose health insurance - Slavery was good, child labor too 1/— Simon Rosenberg (@SimonWDC) August 2, 2023
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Simon Rosenberg on Twitter
Haz on Twitter
Haz on Twitter
“When using URL pagination, it is important to use links instead of buttons. To properly disable a link, you can omit the `href` and specify the `role` and `aria-disabled` attributes. Enabled: <a href="#"> Disabled: <a role="link" aria-disabled="true">”
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Haz on Twitter
Ian "IaaS" Smith on Twitter
Ian "IaaS" Smith on Twitter
“That one friend in college who insisted that the purpose of life, the way to be truly happy, was to become one's own platonic ideal. "What", he said, "is the most [his name] thing I could possibly do? Then I should do that." I _thought_ this was a joke. 1/”
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Ian "IaaS" Smith on Twitter
Ichigo Niggasake on Twitter
Ichigo Niggasake on Twitter
He said take off them rose colored glasses Paris is the ghetto 😭😭😭 pic.twitter.com/9AXGgZcYKL— Ichigo Niggasake (@SomaKazima) July 11, 2023
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Ichigo Niggasake on Twitter
Kevin Kwok on Twitter
Kevin Kwok on Twitter
“Google pays Apple $20B a year to be their default search engine. That's 75% of Apple's entire research and development budget. @narayanarjun pointed out to me that Google's basically funding all of Apple's r&d haha. Should put that on back of every device”
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Kevin Kwok on Twitter
Sherry on Twitter: "Overthinking kills dreams more than failure does. Decisions are the unit economics of life—choosing one thing is simultaneously the rejection of all other things. If you never act, you’ll end up with nothing but expired imaginations. You can’t just “think about it”." / X
Sherry on Twitter: "Overthinking kills dreams more than failure does. Decisions are the unit economics of life—choosing one thing is simultaneously the rejection of all other things. If you never act, you’ll end up with nothing but expired imaginations. You can’t just “think about it”." / X
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Sherry on Twitter: "Overthinking kills dreams more than failure does. Decisions are the unit economics of life—choosing one thing is simultaneously the rejection of all other things. If you never act, you’ll end up with nothing but expired imaginations. You can’t just “think about it”." / X
popstar benny ♪ ☆ on Twitter
popstar benny ♪ ☆ on Twitter
“I love 2011 type beats cuz everything was a lil more electronic for no reason other than “we off that old shit, we making beats on computers now” 😂😂”
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popstar benny ♪ ☆ on Twitter
Mark Harris on Twitter
Mark Harris on Twitter
Extraordinary: We are about to have a rare weekend of genuine significance in recent movie history--two non-sequels arriving simultaneously and turning into a bigger-than-both-of-them cultural event. And instead of considering what appetite that reflects and what it might mean...— Mark Harris (@MarkHarrisNYC) July 21, 2023
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Mark Harris on Twitter
Majd Taby on Twitter
Majd Taby on Twitter
“The ask: "I want to add a button" The work: Make it work on iPhone light mode... and dark mode. Landscape and portrait designs. Don't show label in landscape. On iPad give it different paddings. Different light/dark designs on mac. On macOS add a menu. Oh SwiftUI doesn't…”
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Majd Taby on Twitter