Avoidants: How to Get your Space AND Soothe your Anxious Partner
Do you have an avoidant attachment style and struggle to stay connected with your anxiously attached partner?
This video breaks down the anxious–avoidant attachment dynamic and shows you how to soothe your partner’s anxiety without feeling smothered or overwhelmed.
And if you have an anxious attachment style, it will help you to see how your avoidant partner could help calm your fears in healthy ways, that help nurture security and autonomy, not just temporary reassurance.
If you're tired of the push-pull cycle in your relationship, where one partner wants closeness and the other needs space, this video is for you. Learn how to break the anxious–avoidant trap and start building secure attachment that works for both of you.
🔍 What You’ll Learn in This Video:
How anxious and avoidant attachment styles interact
Why avoidant partners often feel smothered or trapped
What anxious attachment needs to feel emotionally safe
How to stop the pursue–withdraw cycle in anxious–avoidant relationships
Real tools to build emotional intimacy without sacrificing independence
Communication strategies for avoidant attachment in relationships
🔑 This video is packed with practical advice on:
✅ Soothe your partner’s anxious attachment triggers
✅ Keep your emotional space and stay connected
✅ Handle conflict without escalating or shutting down
✅ Build secure attachment from an avoidant starting point
Find what you're looking for here:
00:00 When your need for space triggers your partner's anxiety
02:02 Understanding an Anxious Attachment Style
04:37 Abandonment Fears
09:15 Emotional Deprivation
15:52 Shame
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Attachment theory in real life
Avoidant and anxious dynamics
Relationship repair tools
Secure love strategies that actually work
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You don’t have to choose between love and space.
You just need a new way forward, built on understanding, not fear.